Thankfully recent dabate is not about what size cane is the more effective but what constitutes meaningful praise versus fake, coercive forms. Alfie Kohn's examination of praise identifies golden rules for avoiding falling into invisible traps, and losing sight of what really matters.
If we need to consult to avoid any doubt then let's take more time to listen to children. They invariably know when someone is genuine, and will respond in kind. And let's not ever lose our sense of intuition; going with a gut feeling and doing what feels right. Yes, let's make sure we label the behaviour not the person etc, but let's not become too mechanical or forget the fact that positive attention is infinitely better than negative attention, or else a self-fullfilling prophecy might just knock on our doors.
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